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What are the Benefits of Practicing Tantra?Tantra does more than simply enhance one's lovemaking skills. It teaches us to be more aware of the life force that is always flowing through us, and how to guide that flow consciously. The more you flow with it, the more it flows to you and through you to energize your life. The high energy flowing through our body and brain is very nourishing, balancing and rejuvenating. And couples who practice Tantra together give each other the gift of life through pleasure and joy. the greatest gift we can give one another, and it's priceless! By creating a harmonious union of the male and female aspects that are within each of us, Tantra helps us to understand how these sometimes irreconcilable forces can enlighten and heal one another. The result is a heightened state of awareness, and access to an enormous energy which can be channeled into "full body orgasms" that radiate throughout the body and brain. This is really exciting. exhilarating, energizing and mind expanding! It provides us with knowledge of our divine essence; that force which created us, so that we can live in accordance with our most beautiful and radiant self. Tantra teaches how to experience this heightened awareness in our daily lives and how to apply this dynamic force into every aspect of our lives. Many students find that Tantra increases their mental alertness, providing a deep sense of calm, greater vitality and enhanced overall well-being. One of my clients told me that experiences of heightened state through Tantra, made him feel smarter and perform better in his profession. The benefits are felt physically and emotionally as well as creatively and spiritually. Research is discovering what Tantrics knew all along -- a fulfilling sexual and emotional life is tremendously beneficial to our overall health and state of mind. Expanded orgasms can boost the immune system; strengthen the heart and other organs, and stimulate hormones that increase a person's emotional and physical well-being. Through Tantric sexual practices, men and women gain a greater understanding of the deeper states of orgasm. They can come together in multiple orgasms. And a man can actually experience orgasms without feeling depleted as in ordinary, "friction sex"! This expanded orgasmic state leads to feeling more alive, passionate and energetic in all aspects of life. Feeling loved, nurtured and energized is the best cure for depression and hundreds of other ailments. How Can a Man Become Multi-Orgasmic?This is the question that I get asked the most. It is possible that a man can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating. It's not about withholding the orgasm, as some staunch traditionalists or unenlightened people might think; it's really about diverting the ejaculation, inward and outward so that it turns into streams of pleasurable energy that look and feel like an orgasm, without the ejaculatory release! Through deep relaxation and focus of the mind a man can become not just Multi-Orgasmic… but also Full Body Orgasmic! Ordinarily during what I call "friction sex", orgasm and ejaculation are experienced as one and the same. But in truth, they are separate functions, which stem from opposite sides, of the nervous system. Although they often do occur simultaneously, it is possible that each can be experienced independent of the other. It's possible for a man to ejaculate without experiencing much physical pleasure at all. Most men have experienced this at least once in their lives. Therefore it must be also possible that a man can increase of pleasure volume and decrease the sense of urgency to release. Repeated ejaculatory orgasms and multiple, full body orgasms are NOT the same thing. Men who experience Tantric multiple orgasms frequently enjoy pleasurable sensations that are very similar to those that women feel during multiple orgasms. They report a sense of lightness and tingling that radiates warmth throughout their bodies and carries nourishing energy through their entire being. This expanded state of arousal can last and last -- indefinitely! The experience of Tantra teaches us that prolonged, multiple orgasms can occur without the feelings of depletion, tiredness and lethargy which often follow ejaculation. In ordinary Western sex, a man usually is spent once he ejaculates, particularly if he is past the age of 35 when his hormone levels begin to decline significantly. During an ejaculation a man looses an immense amount of proteins, vitamins, minerals and vital life forces. Also, ejaculation causes the brain to release sleep hormones, which is what causes most man to feel spent and want to sleep afterwards. These should be called "snorgasms", for obvious reasons. The word "orgasm" is derived from ancient Greek which means, "to become engorged; a fullness or ripeness that can occur in any organ or any part of the body.". This is very different from the modern definition of orgasm, however quite similar to the Tantric view. A Tantric orgasm is not a goal that results at the culmination of sex. Rather it is a state of aroused awareness that can occur literally anywhere and everywhere, throughout the body! Tantra teaches us how to accomplish this by being receptive to the energy flowing through us, and thus focus on becoming deeply aroused while simultaneously, remaining present and centered within. This state of mind paves the way for an amazingly satisfying orgasmic experience, that simply has no goal or anything that may interfere with fully enjoying what is present. What's more is that the longer we can linger in this state, the more energy and vitality we are able to absorb and the revitalized by. This type of orgasm is deep, like the ocean. and it is a constant source of powerful energies. We cannot control an orgasm. But, we can learn to ride its waves and experience immense pleasures, joy and all that it brings. It's like the swimmer who learns surfing; while he cannot control the ocean, the surfer learns to connect to the power of the ocean and skillfully play with the waves! To maintain a level of heightened pleasure throughout a series of non-ejaculatory orgasms provides numerous benefits to the body/mind. Thus, in the Tantric view, frequent ejaculation can be depleting because ejaculation causes vital energies and nutrients to be lost. On the other hand, after sustained high levels of pleasure but not ejaculating, a man can actually feel rejuvenated and energized in the afterglow… However, I do not agree with austere Taoists such as Mantak Chia, author of the best seller, "The Multi- Orgasmic Male", and, "The Multi-Orgasmic Couple", who professes that men should never ejaculate except to procreate. Unless you are a martial artist, most men find his methods much too complicated; making it difficult to practice with any degree of success, or pleasure. Not to mention what it feels like to be a partner to someone who was practicing these rigid techniques. It's not sexy. I do believe however, that when ejaculation occurs as the final state of a highly orgasmic interaction, it should be done consciously, with wisdom and intention. When a man "plants his seed" along with an intentional thought or vision, it becomes infused with the creative life force, whether the goal is to create a baby, or to create a more empowered reality. What is the Tantric Approach to Premature Ejaculation?I find that most man who experience difficulties with premature ejaculation are really gifted with a tremendous degree of sensitivity in their ability to feel pleasurable sensations. The problem lies in their fear of coming too soon and so they often try to remedy this by resisting "feeling too good". When this is the action that is taken it is something like, trying to hold back a tidal wave with your bare hands. the more a man tries to hold back, the more frustrating and defeating it becomes. Therefore premature ejaculation turns into a downward spiral, the more you try to control it, the less you are able to enjoy the pleasure. For many men the solution is to desensitize in order to not feel too much. Numbing the sensations of pleasure by thinking about baseball scores or taxes or some other distracting mind game, does not solve the problem. It simply diminishes the power and magnitude of the experience. You both deserve better than that. I can tell you from being on the receiving end of a man caught up in this battle, it is not inspiring or romantic. In the practices of higher sex, one learns not to try and control this force, but rather how to relax and fully enjoy it, by making more space for it. Not limiting it, but rather expanding one's capacity to enjoy the pleasures of sensual and sexual excitement. Tantra instills a nurturing environment in which you can feel confident that you won't be judged for becoming extremely excited to the degree of losing control. In fact, it encourages you to create a safe atmosphere that will support you in feeling comfortable enough to completely surrender to pleasure. In Tantra, there's nothing to be nervous about, no one is judged. There is no goal. All that truly matters is that you experience the loving exchange of pleasurable feelings with your partner. Many of my clients who have had problems in this area found that Tantra enabled them to sustain aroused states of pleasure, without ejaculation, indefinitely. In the West, sex is a rush to completion. That is probably because most of us learned from an early age to "do it" quickly so as not to get caught. According to this model, sex for a man is at best, an excitement of feelings that builds into a single, explosive, ejaculatory orgasm. Even the most virile man can experience only a limited number of them, without feeling spent after the afterglow. Tantra, on the other hand, teaches that ejaculation and orgasm are functions that are controlled by the sympathetic and the parasympathetic nervous system, respectively. When you are functioning in the sympathetic or "the fight or flight" side of your nervous system, you're in an anxious, rigid mode where pleasure is fleeting at best and in this mode, ejaculation often comes sooner then you'd like. If you win through control, you end up being on the other side of the pendulum, where your sensitivity has diminished and then it becomes difficult to maintain arousal or erection. So when you're trying to control the orgasm, you lose, even when you win. The way out is to break the pattern by focusing on a different thought pattern. Everything is as you perceive it and you can change your perception if you don't like what you see. Quantum physics tells us that multiple realities coexist. Our perceptions, thoughts and actions, create our reality. The law of attraction tells us that what we resist persists and that our experiences are generated by where we place our attention, so if you focus on what you want, rather than getting lost in fears of what you do not want, then you will win! Engage your thoughts in fully enjoying the beauty in the pleasures of your body and of life all around you. Give yourself permission, to enjoy to the richest extent that would allow you to feel aliveness and ecstasy, in a caress, a sunset or a rainbow. When you're functioning from this sensual, poetic side of your nervous system, it's often difficult to ejaculate. And you don't want to because every movement produces great pleasure. On the scale of one to 10, it's somewhere between seven and eight. a heavenly state. that which I call Tantra Heaven! Focusing your mind on the beautiful pleasures your body is feeling through breathing. receiving. expressing your joy, your body naturally and spontaneously dances in bliss. And you become a magnet, attracting others who relate to these high frequencies. When the parasympathetic nervous system is stimulated Tantrickly, during sex, it awakens a continuous stream of pleasurable feelings. The body is in a deep state of relaxation with little to no anxiety or pressure. Instead, you feel continuous connectedness to the divine source within you. And when you are filled with love for the divine, your love is divine. Here you feel a liberating state of continue bliss that can last for as long as you can relax and receive. this may seem a bit difficult to comprehend with your mind - it is really meant to be experienced. That is why working with a trained Tantric consort can be very beneficial to help you experience yourself and your sexuality in a whole new way! Your passion becomes powered from your own center, you come from fullness [pun intended]. Once you are connected and filled from within, then you learn to drive the power of your passions, instead of being driven by them. You are able to balance your passions by consciously steering orgasms; seductively in slow, sensual movements. Speaking from experience, the type of movements that many women often find to be most gratifying during sex is slow, deep and sensual. As a perfect complement, a man who tends to cum too quickly will find this same quality of connection enables him the luxury of taking time to completely relax and receive. Thus, "slow and deep" is a key ingredient in prolonging pleasure for both men and women. The best part about this way of making love is that it allows plenty of time and opportunities for sharing true intimacy and exquisite pleasures that deepen the attraction as well as the passion. In unhurried sex, the powerful energy that surges through you as you approach orgasms is directed back into your body, and you can feel the delights of orgasm reach down to your toes, up to your crown and everywhere in-between. The quantity and quality of these orgasms you can experience, is limited only by your own ability to simply allow them. And because both man and woman are satisfied and getting what they need, the benefits can last for days in a harmonious, joyful multitude of ways. I'm Worried about Getting and Maintaining My Erections. Can Tantra Help Me?I frequently encounter clients who, as they mature and their hormone levels shift, they begin to lose faith in their own sexuality. Men become victims of the myth of the Perpetual Erection. It has always existed, but it's become even more destructive because of the way in which the issue is treated in most pornography, which always features a purported Superman. That's not reality. Often porn stars use Viagra or "fluffers", women whose job it is to keep them aroused and hard for their performance. It often seems as though performance anxiety and the pressure that goes along with it is the culprit that causes impotency and perpetuates it. Often I've found that when a man doesn't put pressure on himself nor does his partner, the problem resolves itself, just being present and thoroughly enjoying the moment. In Tantric sex, it's not so important how hard your erection is, how long it lasts, or whether or not you are even hard at all. Not only is it possible to have an orgasm without ejaculating, I have also known men who have had profound full body orgasms and multiples, without even being erect! There are many other delightful ways that you can join with your partner to create great pleasures together, using your hands or mouth that don't require an erection. Tantric teaches you: how to channel your sexual energy throughout your entire body and to your partner's body… How to have non-genital, full body orgasms… How to enter into an exquisite spiritual/sexual state… to feel the energy flowing right through you, into your partner and back into you… creating a continuous stream of energy that flows between you. It's incredibly satisfying! And you can do all this without necessarily having an erection. Interestingly I have found that when sexual partners are not so concerned about whether the man has a full erection or not, the problem often ceases on its own, without needing to be fixed. Taking the pressure off and not having to perform gives way for a deeper more gratifying experience of relaxed arousal and tremendous pleasure. How Long Will It Take to Become Tantric?Because everyone is unique, each person learns at his or her own pace. You can learn the foundations of these practices during your first session. Then, your progress will depend upon your commitment to mastering the art of being both aroused and relaxed, at the same time. On the average, most men have found that after only two or three sessions they have gained enough experience and skill, that they can confidently practice on their own, or with partner, continuing to progress in this arena. I encourage "home play" as a way to integrate and fully understand the methods being taught. Regular practice will enable this knowledge to take root in you and become more your natural way of being. Do I Need to Have a Partner in Order to Practice This?Tantra can be practiced either solo or as a couple. The solo path is known as White Tantra and includes disciplines which prepare the body for sustaining high levels of sexual energy for prolonged periods of time. The practice of Red Tantra is when lovers engage in a dance of erotic energy that opens them to discover increased love and intimacy between them. Naturally, the intensity increases as you share this practice with someone you care about. Tantra offers techniques that not only enhance ones lovemaking skills, it also teaches us how to increase our life force and focus it towards heightened vitality and greater rewards in all aspects of life. In addition, Tantra helps you to become more charismatic, therefore, it may actually help you to create or find a deeply resonant relationship with a partner, if you don't already have one. Once awareness and skill have been attained, men become more emotionally available and then are more capable to connect intimately with a woman. Together in union, they can then travel the path of conscious sexual wholeness. How Can I Learn Tantra?Traditionally, seekers were introduced to Tantra by enlightened tantric practitioners who taught and guided them over years of dedicated studies. Nowadays you can learn these sacred secrets privately with a personal coach or in workshops and seminars with a group of other students. There are also a great number of excellent books and tapes available to help get you started. For a bibliography of books and tapes I recommend, click here. Although it is not as likely that you will derive direct transmissions of the experiences of Tantra simply through reading about it, you can however, gain an understanding of the fundamental principles and some of the practices. I hope that you gain enough understanding that you can pursue this path to discover your own satisfaction. I have taught Tantra privately to individuals and couples as well as in groups for over two decades. My mission is to introduce sincere people who are ready to experience this extraordinary path of higher consciousness through love, sex and intimacy, which leads to greater fulfillment in all of life. What Happens During Your Sessions?The path of Tantra is very personal, and since each person is unique, sessions are custom tailored to supportively guide individuals and couples through awakening passion, pleasure and a peaceful state of mind. The initial session begins with a consultation, which allows us to get acquainted and establish a rapport with one another. Based upon what I learn about you I will design a personalized program to help you realize and actualize your desires. I will introduce you to the foundations that will help you unlock the immense, pleasurable power that is inside of you, just waiting to be experienced. Next, we begin to practice these techniques while you're in a state of deep, conscious relaxation. Then I use nurturing and arousing touch to take you on a sensual journey that helps you to find that perfect balance between excitement and relaxation. Once we have found that balance, you enter a zone which I call Tantric time. In that state, you can experience immense pleasure, which can be sustained for remarkably long periods of time. How Long Does a Session Last?The first session is a minimum of two hours. This gives us enough time to establish a significant degree of trust, which then allows us to explore the deep levels of intimacy that are inherent in this practice. Since Tantra prolongs pleasure and extends one's orgasmic capacity, thus allowing you to experience the nourishing benefits of deep bliss; longer sessions also can be arranged. I recommend booking an extended session especially if it's not likely that we can meet on a very regular basis. Can You Teach Me How to Satisfy My Partner?In order to be able to give your partner pleasure, it's best if you have a grasp of how to expand this pleasure within yourself. So first, I will teach you how to receive pleasure fully. I emphasize this first because learning to receive pleasure deeply allows you to become a fantastic giver of great pleasures, because that place is familiar to you. Naturally, the more capable you are to open yourself up to receiving pleasure, the more you'll be able to please your partner. Receiving pleasure and loving attention is difficult for many people. Especially men who have been taught from a very early age not to feel or allow their feelings "to get out of hand", so they find it is much easier to give. When you can receive pleasure, it puts you in an open and more receptive state. This requires a great deal of trust and the ability to feel safe enough to truly let go of control. to surrender completely. to pleasure… Imagine that your body is composed of many circuits through which energy travels. Tantra increases the flow of energy through the circuits, and enables you to share much more with your partner. By allowing yourself to enjoy higher pleasures via Tantric practices, you will awaken powerful states of intimacy and emotional fulfillment. What Would a Session Be like If I Brought My Partner?Couples sessions are customized to meet the specific needs and desires of the partners involved. We would begin the conversation and see what you individually and your relationship is ready to receive. In addition to the initial instructions in Tantra and learning skills, we would get physical with some partner yoga and Tantric massage you would learn to give to each other with my guidance. If you're feeling adventurous we could explore a "four handed massage" which is really fun and instructional. It's all up to your imagination and your comfort level. Most couples find me very easy to be with and respectful of their relationship. We would decide which partner is to be the focal point -- then the other partner and I work together exploring and nurturing the receiver. I will guide the giver and support the receiver to let go and let love in. This is a great way to learn how to honor your partner with a loving touch that heals and awakens each of you to a life of great joy and unlimited pleasures. When Are You Available?I conduct sessions Mondays through Fridays, beginning at 12 noon -- my last appointment begins at 8 or 9 p.m. I'm occasionally available on weekends, when arrangements are made in advance. How Can I Schedule an Appointment with You?The first step is for you to fill out the profile form and return it to me via e-mail or by FAX. Then we will arrange a time to have a complementary 20 min. consultation where we can discuss our session in more detail. I welcome the three-way conversation or separate conversations with each of you. If you're planning a visit specifically for sessions, I recommend that you book a series of sessions, to get the most out of your stay. I am also available to travel to you intensive sessions and will consider traveling, at your expense, if the arrangements and timing is suitable for me. |